Transition age and how to behave with a child.

When does the transition age begin and how to behave with a child. ----Transitional or adolescence is a long and difficult stage of a child’s transformation into an adult. WHO classifies children and young people from 10 to 19 years of age as adolescents. ----What are the characteristics of children in transition. ----A teenager is burdened with a double burden: on the one hand, he is overwhelmed by hormones, on the other, he is growing up psychologically and breaking away from his family. A real revolution is taking place in the adolescent brain, which is expressed in the following behavioral features. ----They are very confused by the stares. -----Teenagers feel anxious if they know they are being watched by their peers or parents. They may even break out in a sweat from exertion. ---They make unfavorable decisions under the influence of the company. ----Teenagers aged 13-16 are not so inclined to take risks when they are alone with themselves. Another thing is in the company of peers. They would rather harm themselves than lose face in front of others. 14 years old is called the most dangerous age: a teenager is more inclined than ever to take risks and make rash decisions under the influence of peers. ---They are not motivated by punishment. ----Neuropsychologists have found that between the ages of 12 and 17, rewards are the best incentive to study well. But teenagers are much less susceptible to punishment than people aged 18-32. ---They are in search of themselves. ----Hence the tendency to experiment with appearance: dye your hair, get tattoos, dress provocatively. ---Support your child’s hobbies ----If a teenager is willing to talk to you about what interests him, great. So, despite the hormonal storms, you still have a connection. It’s ideal when you share his hobbies: creating cartoons on the computer or playing football together. But this is not necessary at all. It is enough to show respect for his choice and sincere interest. ---Maintain his self-esteem, do not compare with other people. Encourage sports, or better yet, go to the stadium or gym together. ----Don’t bother me with questions and advice. ----Teenagers are often annoyed by excessive guardianship, intrusive advice, and conversations similar to interrogations: where have you been? What exactly did you do with your friends? What’s wrong with you? If the child answers reluctantly and in monosyllables, change tactics. -----Talk less, listen more, and give the teenager a chance to speak out. Build a dialogue with him as with an intelligent adult whose opinion is important to you. ----Allow mistakes to be made. ----Loosen your control and stop deciding everything for the teenager. You can give advice, talk about the possible consequences of a wrong step, but let the teenager disobey and fill his bumps. In most cases, he will be able to learn a lesson. But in no case do not finish him off with a phrase.: I told you so ----Hug more often. ----No matter how prickly and distant a teenager may seem, he periodically needs physical contact with his parents. Hugs are a signal of care and safety. The only thing is, you shouldn’t be affectionate in public, especially with peers. Leave them for home communication.